Chiron Venus: Conjunction
“Her wings are cut and then she is blamed for not knowing how to fly.”
Simone de Beauvoir
Chiron coming into contact with the archetype of beauty, relating, evaluating, and attracting symbolizes an initial vulnerability with regards to “yin” functions in one’s psyche or body. All such functions will be colored by sensitivity to that which is awkward, ugly, out of place, or deemed as unworthy.
Wounds may take an aesthetic dimension, or relationships can become vehicles for wounding or healing. An individual with this placement in her natal chart may display an extraordinary level of sensitivity concerning how the “other” operates in relation to her.
Simone de Beauvoir, the existentialist philosopher, political activist, and the celebrated feminist writer who had this placement in her natal chart is an apt example: the title of her book, The Second Sex, reflects her perception of the concept of “feminine” in relation to the concept of “masculine,” and how the feminine has always been defined as a secondary term in relation to the masculine.
Likewise, an individual with Venus Chiron contact in her natal chart may see herself as “secondary” in relationship with the other. No matter how a relationship has been formed, Venus Chiron individuals tend to understate their own contribution and overstate the role of the other in maintaining the bond. Sometimes what maintains the bond is precisely the Chironic wound itself: when an individual feels “awkward” regarding her style of attracting or mesmerizing the other, she would seldom want to take a risk and break the bond, go elsewhere and find someone new only to initiate the entire uncomfortable courtship process again, hence Chironic relationships may last years and even decades, for better or for worse.
With this placement in the natal chart, a heightened awareness of the relational quality of existence, in general, may also exist, which will bless the individual with artistic and creative potential: creative interaction and artistic collaboration can organically turn into means of healing deep-seated wounds, especially wounds formed during the Taurus stage of psychological growth (between the age of 2 and 5), concerning topics such as security and trust.
Venus Chiron conjunction may also symbolize instinctual empathy developing as a result of encounters with physical imperfection. A child born with this configuration in her natal chart may feel an inherent awkwardness regarding her body or physical functions. Food-related functions may also be affected (though this is also probable with Moon Chiron contacts). As Venus represents the mouth and the throat in medical astrology, Venus Chiron individuals may show vulnerability regarding their voice, manner of speaking or being heard. Metaphorically, this also indicates sensitivity about being accepted or appreciated because of what someone has to offer.
Chiron also represents various forms of bridging (as discussed in my article “Pity and Rupture: Introduction to Chiron in the Birth Chart”), so all that Venus symbolizes may be connected to Chironic process. For example, money can be earned through teaching, healing, counseling, or mentoring. If these topics also contain an interactive component, such as relationship counseling, financial coaching, or teaching arts, the energies represented by this configuration will be channeled most constructively.
As with all Chiron contacts, some Venusian experiences may also be initially difficult: the Venus Chiron individual may feel clumsy regarding her body, find it difficult to bask in the sensual aspects of life, establish physical relationships or simply enjoy spending money on pretty things. Sometimes (not always) being touched or smelled by the other may feel awkward or intimidating. In this case, true healing occurs when one gets involved in a sensual relationship only when emotional components such as love and trust are also present: what Chiron finds initially awkward will eventually turn into an erotically-charged experience that can further cement the connection between the parties involved.
As Chiron keeps gently courting Venus, Venus will develop a sense of trust in herself and what she represents. She will gradually blossom from a shy, little girl into a mature, confident lady. The maturation process of the “yin” side of the psyche will coincide with identifying a wound, looking at it, opening it, sewing it, and letting it scab, all through interaction with the other. This is probably why, for a Venus Chiron individual, falling in love means healing the other or getting healed by the other. If this component is not present in an intimate relationship, that relationship may be perceived as unfulfilling or may not last long enough to turn into something significant.
Regardless of how Venus Chiron contact may function in the psyche, the individual with this conjunction in her natal chart will display sensitivity concerning all that is material, sensual, or aesthetic. Self-worth, attractiveness, charisma, relationships, earning capacity, body, and bank accounts will remain delicate topics to discuss, no matter how old one gets.
Chiron Venus: Square
“What is hell? I maintain that it is the suffering of being unable to love.”
With this configuration in the natal chart, our sensual experiences, self-appreciation, and immediate needs may have been deeply conditioned by our understanding of the wounding process involved in relating to the material world or to our early care-takers. We may constantly be aware of how awkward it is to own anything (including our own body)or to need anyone (including our own mother or father).
From a psychological point of view, an individual with this configuration in her natal chart may experience profound empathy for a lover or a parental figure (usually the parent with more artistic inclination or highlighted Venus in his or her own chart). These individuals may have had their own “yin” functions wounded one way or the other: a parental figure or a beloved partner may have never had a chance to follow his or her “bliss,” to fulfill his or her creative potential or, on a more primal level, to feel deserving of appreciation.
More often than not, the individual tends to “heal” the Chironic theme present in a parent through falling in love with people who carry a similar wound and then encouraging them to address the wound. For example, a woman who has had an artistically-inclined father who never had a chance to pursue his dream career will feel attracted to a man who may be trapped in a traditional job while dreaming of becoming a musician or a painter. She will then start supporting him and even encouraging him to leave the safe job and pursue his artistic dreams. Through this gesture, she is probably attempting to “heal” this wound in her father, and in a way, in herself, but she may not be conscious of this process.
Chiron in aspect to Venus in the natal chart may also symbolize wounds regarding money or material possessions. Again, a parental figure may be the carrier of this wound, and the individual may simply reenact it in her relationships or love affairs.
In either case, individuals with this configuration in their birth chart can act as loving conduits for the unrecognized artistic or creative tendencies present in their partners, friends, or clients. They are capable of forming relationships in which the other feels appreciated and valued. As these individuals grow older, they become more appreciative of their own talents and the beauty embedded in the material existence.
Chiron Venus: Opposition
“It is most unwise for people in love to marry.”
George Bernard Shaw
Individuals with this configuration in their natal chart may sense that perfection is simply impossible, be it in the material world or human relationships, yet, they unconsciously yearn for it and seek it in every significant encounter they experience. Such an eternal quest for perfection sensitizes their relationship to themselves and to the world around them. Consequently, they may choose relationships in which there is always something to perfect, as through such relationships they unconsciously aim to perfect that which feels imperfect inside.
With Venus standing in opposition to Chiron, the attraction mechanism may simply be triggered by the woundedness of the other, be it real or imaginary. In the absence of modifying aspects to Venus, Chiron may become the only reason for us to fall in love: the chance to make someone whole and healed can prove irresistible to our psyche.
The other, however, may not be quite ready to be reduced to a therapeutic or artistic project: she may resist our “noble” attempts to make her perfect in order to then fall in love with her. This process has been beautifully dramatized by George Bernard Shaw, the Irish playwright who had this configuration in his natal chart:
Pygmalion is a modern adaptation of a story inspired by the Greek mythological figure Pygmalion, a sculptor who falls in love with one of the statues he has carved. Shaw’s adaptation, however, does not have a happy ending: Eliza, the beloved “project” of Higgins (the modern equivalent of Pygmalion) escapes her creator’s attempts to possess her. Similarly, the quest for perfection and the impossibility of ever possessing such perfection may very well be a recurring theme for individuals with Venus Chiron opposition in their natal chart.
If this projection is analyzed and integrated correctly, the frustration resulting from the seeming impossibility of experiencing the perfect love or the perfect sensual experience can serve as the “perfect” reason to connect to others. In accepting what is lovely in all its imperfection one may, indeed, experience the perfection of human love.
“What makes the desert beautiful is that somewhere it hides a well.”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
This configuration may signal that one’s self-worth, sensual functions, or relationship patterns have been overpowered or diminished by one’s wounds or sensitivities. In some cases, the individual may feel that she can not reveal the true nature of her desires, as what ignites her desire is quite difficult to define, even for the individual herself.
In some cases, the individual may fear being pitied by the other, therefore does not quite “fall in love” as a preemptive measure against possible pity or embarrassment. Being physically absent while theoretically committed or getting distracted by various forms of short-lived encounters can be a common pattern in this case.
Alternatively, potential partners may find it difficult to reveal their own sentimental nature to the individual, fearing embarrassment. It is also possible that the individual simply dismisses the presence of embarrassing qualities in their lovers or partners.
In any case, over time and with consciousness, the individual with this configuration in her natal chart can become emotionally comfortable with that which is “awkward” in herself or others, thus allowing true intimacy to take place. Otherwise, relationships may be just strings of attachments and detachments without fulfilling the profound human need to be seen and appreciated for the entirety of oneself.
“Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.”
This configuration signals that one’s sensual reactions and relationship needs may have been subtly affected by one’s sense of pathos. Alternatively, a lover or partner may carry a certain sentimental or emotional vulnerability that polarizes their view of relationships: for them, either one is in a romantic relationship, or one is in a realistic relationship. Synthesizing the two may seem not only impossible but also unnecessary.
Same polarization may also exist in the individual herself: either one loves passionately or one loves practically. This may create an unconscious need to keep these two spheres separate from one another, thus loving what one already has may seem impossible, and falling in love may be possible only with that which one cannot have.
The key to working with such a Chironic cleft is to recognize that one may indeed fall in love with the familiar, every-day, comfortable aspect of existence, and not just the absolutely new. On the other hand, one may fail to feel comfortable in an exclusively passionate relationship, yet again, there is always a possibility of bringing comfort to that which seems unsettling at first: one has to just come out of this polarity and see love as a spectrum of various colors rather than a monochromatic, quantifiable value.
Chiron Venus: Trine
“I will touch a hundred flowers, and not pick one.”
Edna St. Vincent Millay
With this configuration in the natal chart, there usually exists a smooth psychological connection between the awkward side of our personality and our sensual desires or relationship patterns. The wound is, in fact, part of the process of appreciating ourselves and those who come into contact with us.
The harmonious energy flow between Venus and Chiron may also imply that Venusian figures in our life, such as lovers and partners have come to terms with their own sensitivities and are ready to help us deal with ours. A fruitful collaboration may ensue, resulting in mutual appreciation of each other’s vulnerabilities.
There is creative potential present with Chiron trining the planet of aesthetics, and such abundant energy can often be channeled through artistic outlets. A partner or lover may also assume a supportive role regarding our personal “sore spot” and help us find a unique manner of expressing our talents and creative inclinations fueled by this sore spot.
In some cases, however, Chiron may become the only filter through which relationships are formed or maintained. Our romantic palate may prefer Chironic tastes and stories of woundedness, pathos, and recovery may become highly favored in our process of attraction or satisfaction. In this case, we may need to ponder if love will ever be possible outside of the “wounded/healed” dichotomy, and if so, how can we relate to it without becoming strangers to ourselves.
Chiron Venus: Sextile
“I love thee with the passion put to use, in my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.”
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
With this configuration in the natal chart, one is often presented with opportunities to get sensually involved in that which is wounded or unaccepted in oneself or others. One’s immediate environment may also have brought the individual into direct contact with Chironic themes or figures early in life.
Alternatively, a partner or lover may have been involved in therapeutic or healing professions or may have adopted the Chironic lifestyle of being a teacher, mentor, or storyteller. Writing or communicating through arts may also become a means of expressing love or connecting to a lover. Many “love letters” may be exchanged and relationships may be formed based on mental affinity more than sensual arousal.
A conscious examination of the nature of love, beauty, or material existence may also become an attractive topic of study, and the individual may show a healthy level of curiosity regarding the healing nature of love or arts.
Any profession which allows sensitivity to human relationships or an understanding of the material existence in general (including money management, textile, perfume or food industry, or any branch of arts) will be an apt choice for someone with this configuration in her natal chart.
You can read about Chiron Signs and Houses in my other articles.